Not everyone wants to get married, but if you do, then you naturally don’t want to waste time dating guys who don’t want the same thing. What would be the point? The problem is that it’s way too easy to invest your time and emotions into some dude only to discover that you really do not want to be stuck with him until death do you part. Keep an eye out for the warning signs before you fall head over heels for someone who’s not at your level.
1. He Refuses to Compromise Over Anything
No marriage will ever succeed without compromise. The couple might stay married, but guaranteed, one of them is utterly miserable or secretly resentful. Compromise of the cornerstone of every healthy relationship, whether it results in marriage or not. A man who won’t compromise is too stubborn to be marriage material. He won’t budge, so ask yourself—do you really want to be married to a rock? A dude who won’t work with you not only doesn’t value your opinion, but clearly only values his own. Eff that. Say, “I don’t.”
2. He Tells Lies of Any Shape or Size
Little white lies don’t seem so bad until they pile up until you’re ever sure what’s a fib and what’s for real. Dishonesty is insidious that way. Large or small, an untruth will always weigh on your mind. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life wondering if your spouse is telling the truth. Don’t believe that BS about how small lies don’t matter, either. A dude who lies about his penis size or his job title can lie about anything else, too.
3. He Hates Animals and/or Babies
No big deal if he doesn’t want any pets or kids. Women and men are both entitled to not want either. Actively, genuinely hating animals and tiny humans is another, scarier matter. That kind of hatred is honestly terrifying. There’s always something a bit psychopathic about it.
4. He Mistreats People in the Service Industries
You can always tell who a person truly is from the way they treat anyone in the service industry. From servers and bellboys to cashiers and janitors, pay attention to how the man in your life treats the people who basically take care of everyone else’s crap. It’s easy to treat your “superiors” with respect. It’s how you treat the people who serve you that matters.
5. He Won’t Roll with the Punches
Any guy who can’t handle change can’t handle marriage, either. Just as marriage is full of compromise—ideally, anyway—it’s also full of transition. The very act of getting married is transitional. He’s not going to deal well with living together, either. Discovering that someone else has to share space and introduce their own routines might make him freak out, and you don’t need that.
6. He’s Never Met a Promise He Could Keep
You can’t trust someone who consistently breaks promises. Why make them in the first place? It’s one thing to break a promise that simply can’t be kept—occasionally. It’s another to swear to do something and welch on it over and over again. If he can’t keep his promises now, his behavior won’t improve after you say, “I do.”